Fictitious People
A lot of People will tell you “Money is not everything in life”. The kind of meaning this sentence actually carries is based on the real life experience of these people.
Most of the younger generation these days is completely focused on just one objective; that is to make money. A person joked to me sometime back, “Money cannot buy everything in life but it can buy a lot of good supplements.” This sentence pretty much sums up the current generation of thinking.
Just think about this one for a moment “Do you think, if you had a big bungalow, ten servants, a Mercedes, exotic furniture etc etc , You would be happy ?”. If you say you would, then good for you ! But for as long as I know there is something Money can’t buy that is “Money can’t buy happiness!” It can buy fake happiness though. But such things have a shelf life which is even less that that of the Chinese goods available in the market.
If God came to me & asked me "Son what do you want" I would say "Oh God, I just want to very happy" cause it is within these words lies the secret to everything that a man works, prays & struggles for. It is just to be happy at the end of the day. Isn't it...!!!
The lives of most fictitious people, revolves around exhibition of wealth, be it either by buying the most expensive car in the market, or wearing expensive designer dresses or having the most expensive bathroom décor. Life for them is all about “Show”. It is deriving perverted happiness by the feeling that I have what the other person doesn’t. It is this show that ends up creating a snob affect on every section of society right from the rich to the poor. Everyone tries to put up a show as long as they can afford one. Even your maidservant tries to put up a show within her own circle. It’s a vicious circle of artificial happiness that has engulfed people. It is in this show that they end of loosing “The Essence of Life”. The beauty of life lies in the moments you live & not in comforts you use.
There are a lot of things in life that money can’t buy. People who have all the luxuries in life need not be necessarily be happy. What use is the shining Chandelier, & the Italian Marble tiles, the exotic furniture in your house, the expensive cars if the person with whom you live with is not the right one. A lot of people make a lot of money but if there is no one whose life they can make better, whom are they earning for !. Human’s are emotional & social creatures. Even the greatest con-man or should I say “Crook” lives & does what he does so that he can provide for some one whom is very dear to him.He tries his best to make the life of his loved one happy though it would end up making most other people lives miserable, something he is non bothered about. To put it simple words “Even a fox loves her child.”
I knew a person who could buy practically everything in life. From the outside this person would give the impression that he is a very happy & satisfied man but little does anyone know he eats from the hotel everyday. The reason-either his wife who is actually a homemaker does not care about him at all or does not like to cook. Her nature is also pretty indifferent. So inspite of being able to buy everything, he is unable to buy the most basic thing most people long for & that is home food. There is nothing more expensive in the world than eating the food cooked by your mother or your wife or any of your loved one for that matter. Money can’t buy that, Money can’t buy you love. Money can’t buy you compassion, Money can never buy you Care !. So inspite of this person having everything in his life, he is still unhappy. He would probably be even jealous of the watch-man or driver who works for him cause they get to go home & eat the meals prepared by their loved ones. Too much wealth but no mental peace then what use is of that wealth !.
Happiness is an emotion which grows through sharing!. If one passes an exam or has a wedding or has a child, or for that matter any good news that happiness is felt in its true proportions only when it is shared with someone be it either a loved or even a complete stranger thinking that even he wishes the best for you & is happy for you.
As I always say “It’s the moments in life” that make you happy & true happiness is what money can never buy. From giving birth to child, holding it with your hand to watching a child say Mom & Dad for the 1st time, to seeing it smile, to seeing the child take its 1st step & then watch the child grow & mature through the years to watching him getting married & having his or her own life. All these moments are priceless. Money can never buy them.
If you look at life in its close quarter, it’s more the simple things in life that lend true happiness than everything else.
Simple living & high thinking is a great way to live a life but we in a society, which is influenced by the walks, talks & the lives of the rich & famous. We tend to forget the meaning of true happiness. I tell my friends sometimes, you don’t need to go to Kullu Manali & buy expensive diamond sets to express to your partner that you love her & be really happy. I am not saying don’t go to a hill station or anything like that. What I mean is If your sure that your with the right person that you will be equally happy sitting on a bench in a garden & feel true love. What use is going to the beautiful Kashmir or Switzerland if you are with the wrong person. Happiness is enhanced only when you share it with the right people, then be it a diamond set or even an ice-cream, your home or Zurich, you would still be happy.
I am not in any way implying that having a big beautiful house & a lavish lifestyle is improper in anyway but if such a lifestyle is adapted to only make a big show in front of others, then that is perverted happiness. At the most these materialistic comforts are what one can sum up as value add on’s or sometimes short lived supplements. They can never be the fundamental source of true happiness. These days people derive happiness from other peoples jealously, what other have a comment to make about your car, house, mobile, dress etc etc rather than what forms the basis essence of human nature & that is emotions. At the end of the day its emotions that last a lifetime. Its true emotions as subtle as they may be give true happiness.
That sad thing about these days is everybody intentionally or unintentionally has already fallen into its trap of fictitiousness. For a lot of people everything from the birth of a child to the death of an elderly has become a publicity stunt. There are certain communities in India that plan absolutely lavish weddings most of which are even beyond their means to do so. They end up blowing of their entire life savings for it. They say the memory of the day is worth the money. I don’t dispute that but the thought this poor person who barely earns enough to support his family can go all out of his means to make a successful wedding makes me think that the message he want’s to give to the world that even if I don’t have the means, I can still have a lavish wedding. The thing about this is everybody knows this. A lot of people spend like donkey’s & money’s on wedding & parties just so that they can make a big show in front of society. They want to be recognized. They feel happy if people say it was a good wedding & they enjoyed the food. The funny thing about a marriage in most sections of society is it become a theatrical experience which is most focused on playing to the gallery & somewhere down the line two main protagonists which are the whole & soul of the entire occasion are sidelined. The words sound harsh but marriages have become all about the kind of money spent in them & quality of the food, the expensive dressed worn, the sets, the lawns & sadly the presents too. Somewhere I feel we loose the aesthetic value of a marriage. Most of the people don’t know the sacred meaning of the seven rounds that the couple makes around the fire to solemnize their wedding. I asked a friend of mine why didn’t he print “no gifts please” on his wedding card. The reply he gave me was “I give one so I want one back” ! I thought to myself this guy has all the money in the world but still he doesn’t have a big heart. Why has life become so artificial. Why is everything in life about manipulative opportunity & a give & take relationship. Why aren’t most people anymore genuine ?. Somethings that we know but probably don’t have an answer too but we have a word for it, they call it “Practical Life”. The word practical sound more derogatory in this context than anything else.
I have often observed this quality among highly affluent people. That is nothing is free. The gifts & the present that they shower on each other are only for some inherent favour in return. A rich person told me something I probably will never forget for the rest of my life “You only give to those people from whom you will get back with interest”. As disgusting as this may sound, this is the way of the world. After coming across a lot of people I observed that people who aren’t that rich are more generous in nature than most of those who are filthy rich & live life around this fictitious web.
A gift given or a favor done with the intention of getting one back insults the very intention of doing something good in life. People who give without the intention of getting anything back in return are always good people. Even in these times such people do exist. A lot of people do selfless work just because they find happiness in helping someone, bringing about a smile in some face & seeing someone live a beautiful life. It’s because of these people that there is something Good in this World & that holds the strength of the entire human race.
People who derive happiness by possessing the material things in life & loose touch of their real-selves & pretend to be happy cause of the money power they flaunt to the people around & derive happiness from other people inadvertent jealousy are the end of the day, what I would call the perverted happiness of Fictitious people. !!!
2 comments:
This really is an awesome write-up. So much sense ! Perverted happiness - Really good way of putting it.
Your thoughts and scripts are really good. I enjoyed reading it and would recommend to keep your scripts short and crisp:)
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